Call it what you want-we are all guilty!

Even if you are not in a relationship at this moment, you have most likely been in a relationship before.

Now let's take this scenario:
There's a female who is in love and her man loves her back. She is used to living her life by her own means and doing what she likes...she had no one else to think about except herself. Now she's in love with a dude that is great by her standards, but probably not by others. When things get rough he tells her what to do, when to do it, and even puts his hands on her. She complains to her friends, they tell her to leave, she agrees, he says sorry, cops her a nice gift, they are back!

-As females, we would probably be quick to judge homegirl. There would be a ton of talk about how we would never let a dude treat us like that, put his hands on us...oh hell no! And we would send him packing! Forget love right?! That dude is not worth it! Don't be blind girl!

Now take this scenario:
There's a couple. Been together for years. She's always been a party girl and he never really mind. After some time once things began to get really serious, he asked that she not stop her partying but the other activities involved with her partying. She said ok, not for her, but because she wanted to but to keep him happy. She slips back into her extra partying ways, she lies to him, she talks a tough game with the girls, but not with him. Its your other activities or your relationship. She does what he says and that's that. And again, its not because she wants to...its to make him happy.

-Now some would say listen, she's young she can have fun and do what she wants. Why try to change a person if they were doing all of this partying when you met them. She defends herself and says she lies to save her relationship, to keep him happy. You would say girl please, that is not your master and there is no ring on your finger so why do you have to make these changes for this dude? Forget love right?! That dude is not worth you not doing what you want to do! Live your life girl!

Think about the chicks you judge. Not because you are hating, its just because we are quick to think we know how to fix everyone else's problems because their problems seem worst than our own. No way ma, we are pretty much all on the same page. Think of the outrageous things you have done for a dude. You can be the strongest woman in the world, you get blinded and you know you can't deny it. Hopefully we aim to learn from our mistakes and learn how to be stronger. But for real ladies...
"Don't front, you know he got you open! "

Peace!
Sequin "Guilty as charged" Dot